The Gift of Forgiveness
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B. Smedes
For many of us forgiveness feels like the biggest mountain to climb – and yet we know in our heart of hearts that it’s what we long for. Are you ready to gift yourself the freedom from blame, anger and resentment that causes others and especially ourselves so much pain? Do you wish for more inner peace? There is no peace without forgiveness. This workshop will teach you the steps to forgiving yourself and others, and the practices and insights to resource you on the path of an opening heart.
I will introduce you to each of the stages of the Forgiveness model in the transformational Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) programme. This approach developed by Chris Germer and Kristin Neff offers a powerful way to shift from the contraction of hurt into the ease of an open heart, honouring our relational needs in both tender and courageous ways.
Previous participants said this workshop helped them to…
“Develop more self-kindness and recognise I’m waiting for others to forgive me (when I can forgive myself).”
“Understand that we all make mistakes, and it’s key to forgiving self and others.”
“Understand that forgiveness is not just about exercising self-compassion, there are more steps to reach forgiveness.”
“Work through a process and find I can set clearer and more heartfelt intentions when I have been kinder and really listened to myself.”
“Realise that I can still protect myself even if I forgive.”
“Recognising that where I feel the hurt/pain in my body helps me engage with the process of forgiving.”
“That time to think about why people behave as they do is really helpful – as it’s not always what you think.”
“I can find the words that wear down my resistance to self-compassion and self-forgiveness.”
This interactive daylong workshop will include be a mix of meditations, exercises, contemplations and discussions. The overall approach is experiential, learning through practice and reflection, with brief didactic presentations and a companion handout.
This workshop is open to all. There is no meditation experience required, although it’s always helpful if you are familiar with mindfulness or self-compassion approaches and this can be a perfect opportunity to deepen your practice and understanding.
What to bring : all meditation equipment is provided for your comfort, but please bring a notebook and wear comfy clothes so that you can stretch and breathe comfortably.
Radical Acceptance, Radical Change
Mindful Self-Compassion in action
Mindfulness and self-compassion is often associated with accepting things as they are, but paradoxically it’s a radical form of acceptance that empowers us to change in many deep and lasting ways. Together we will explore the way that awareness and both tender and fierce self-compassion, can support you making the changes you wish for in your inner and outer life, and contributing to change in the world. Whether you are stuck in a rut at work, struggling in relationships, or want to change your approach to practice this workshop will resource you through meditations, self-reflection exercises, teachings and group discussion. This event is open to all levels of experience though previous mindfulness or self-compassion training will be helpful.
Compassion is often thought of as tender, soft and comforting, but that’s only one side of a caring response to suffering. On the Mindful Self-Compassion programme, and particularly in the work of Kristin Neff there is increasing emphasis on the fact that compassion expresses itself in different ways. We all need to find more balance but that’s not easy – learn how to adjust your caring so that you feel safe, boundaried and actively engaged in protecting the people and places you care about.
Imagine validating your own needs and being a good friend to yourself so that you become your own brave ally, better able to hold boundaries and asserting your needs, putting yourself first so that you can be there for others as you wish to be, speaking out when you want to. Self-compassion at such times means we no longer abandon ourselves and are better protected against the risks of, for example, activist exhaustion, carer burn out, or continually exposing ourselves to harm in relationships.
A safe learning environment for you to explore individually and with others how to be more brave, empowered and motivating using self-compassion techniques. A day long session with lunch break, including a mix of didactic material, experiential exercises, meditations, self-reflection and discussion for you to learn how with words, tone, gestures and insight we can change the habits of a lifetime.
Based on Dr. Rick Hanson’s work you will learn ways to lower anxiety and stress, lift mood, develop calm and contentment. Introducing you to a method that imprints everyday positive experiences in our memory to help us feel strong, happy, peaceful, and loved more of the time.
No prior mindfulness experience is required. Everyone is welcome.
- Identify how and why the brain has a “negativity bias” and the effects this has on our well-being;
- Gain a deeper scientific understanding of “self-directed neuroplasticity,” where we can use our minds to change the shape and functioning of our brains over time—the basis of long-term health and happiness;
- Learn which positive experiences can meet your three essential needs for safety, satisfaction and connection and how you can use these to build inner strength;
- Learn Dr. Rick Hanson’s four-step HEAL method that imprints everyday positive experiences in the memory to help us feel strong, happy, peaceful, and loved.
A mix of didactic material, experiential exercises, self reflection and discussion.
This class will be held on Zoom. There will be a 30-minute break during the workshop. Max 12 participants.
Next course dates TBC